How to Bring Your Kids Up Gay

 (Summary)

Introduction

            The present rate suicides and suicides attempt by children and adolescents are causing a major concern o n the issue bringing up children. As per the study by US health department on youth suicide, this issue also affects both the gay and lesbian youths due to the hostile and condemning environments in which they face in the society. This hostility may be inflicted inform of verbal as well as physical abuse, rejection and subjection to isolations from m their families and peer. Compared to other groups of people, lesbians and gay youths are two to three times more at risk of committing and attempting to commit suicide.  Teachers and professors understanding on the enjoined homophobia uniformity in relation to homosexual desires, adults, children, adolescent and their identities plays a major role in reducing the rates  of these case.

Psychoanalysis, psychiatry and helping professionals in bringing kids up gay

            Psychoanalysis, psychiatry and helping professionals are functioning elements in the US and play a significant role in the lives of gay kids. According to American psychiatric Association publication of 1973, the decision to stop homosexuality pathologizing diagnosis resulted to influential developments in revising psychoanalysis such as ego-psychology. The question being raised is on the fate of children who are subjected to psychoanalysis and psychiatry at present, post-DSM-III in relation to their sexuality anxieties.

Ego-based psychoanalytic theory

            According to Richard C. Friedman’s study on Male Homosexuality (1988),  and Richard Green’s study on Sissy Boy Syndrome’ and the Development of Homosexuality (1988), Friedman was sympathetically involved in depathologizing movement of 1973. His study contains contents of gay histories and non-therapeutic contexts encountered by those gays. Several examples of gay men in different professional and their relationship with other people in the society are given in the book. Such people include Luke who is an army officer and Tima who was an excellent athlete. This people relates to both the male and feminine gender in the society. Friedman gives an example of a pilot who is heterosexual and posses a high-integrated personality.

Analysis of a male homosexual

A male and healthy homosexual can be characterized as a grown up, and masculine. Friedman gives a correlation of gay male effeminacy with the global character pathology as well as the lower psychostructural spectrum part. With the variability of human behavior, clinical concept is impressive at times though they fail to justify this variability. During child hood, there is a clear distinction between nonconformists and those, what they call, with psychopathology. For instance, boys who are chronically effeminate fall into to the latter category.

 The first DSM-III, which had no entry for homosexuality, was published in 1980. It also didn’t contain the 302.60 Gender Identity Disorder of Childhood new diagnoses. The diagnosis has a high differential between boys and girls.

Causes of a child Gender Identity Disorder

            This may result from the boy being preoccupied with female stereotypical activities for instance, participation in games perceived to be for girls and pastimes of girls as well as simulation of female attire. These identity disorders have attracted attention from the outside. However, gay movement has to view gender and sexuality as categories which are continuous and collapsible and eradicate the assumption that any person, male or female who desires a woman must be taken as feminine and vise- versa. Effeminate boys act as a foreshadow of future adult gay men in the society.

The new psychoanalytic developments

            They are based on the aspect of differentiating gender from sexuality. They entail typical sexual object depathologization Yoked to the new pathologization of specified gender identification.

Reasons why Effeminate boys turn out gay

            The main reason is the lack of validation by other men as masculine i.e. other men don’t validate them as masculine. According to Friedman, lack of sense of masculine self regard, lack of masculine competence, lack of self evaluation as appropriate masculine and lack of self esteem may result to effeminate boys turning out gay. This may also act as the initial stages of the development of proto-gay children.

Imperative developmental task of a male child

            According to Friedman and green, this begins with getting a properly male Core Gender Identity in place. Freidman does not see the need to connect or rather relate masculinity with male homosexuality hence this need not to be taken as a scapegoat. There is no need of homosexual panic based on development of male heterosexuality, which is treated by ego psychology.

Effects of the new psychiatry of gay acceptance

            The first effect is re-naturalization and enforcement of gender assignment. However, other than its failure to offer, it can conceptually be unable to offer the slightest resistance to the wish endemic in relation to surrounding culture. Though some people have a strong interest in treating gay people with dignity, there are a limited number of persons or institutions that treat gay as part and parcel of the society. The asymmetry value assignment that is between homo and hetero is based on the need to advice on how to help your kids turn out gay.

Parents’ perception on their effeminate sons

            Green encourages parents to stop hatred and rage on their effeminate sons since this hatred and rage is just out their desire to protect their sons from the cruelty imposed to them by their peers. Most parents tend to protect their sons from this social cruelty and once they fail to change them usually kick them out of the streets. As per Green, he is concerned about parents who tend to tolerate their sons cross gender behaviors.